I hope I don't confuse anyone posting the challenge for next week early but I will be traveling without internet this weekend so wanted to post it before leaving town.
The information that follows is from Purdue University Center for Families’
Family
Meals spell S-U-C-C-E-S-S
S =
Smarter Children:
·
Improved
vocabularies and reading skills
A
study by Dr. Catherine Snow at Harvard’s Graduate School of Education, followed
65 families over 15 years, looking at how mealtime conversations play a critical
role in language acquisition in young children. The conversations that occur
around the family table teach children more vocabulary and forms of
discourse than they learn when you read to them. Improved vocabularies
lead to better readers. Better readers do better in all school subjects.
·
Improved
achievement test scores
A University of
Illinois study of 120 boys and girls age 7 – 11 found that children who did
well in school and on achievement tests were those who generally spent large
amounts of time eating meals with their families.
·
Greater
academic achievement
A Reader’s Digest
survey of more than 2,000 high-school seniors compared academic achievement
with family characteristics. Eating meals with their family was a stronger
predictor of academic success than whether they lived with one or both parents. Share that with families who may not
have money or education or a spouse, but do have it in their power to eat with
their kids!
·
Higher
grades
Research by the
National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (CASA),
and others, has found a striking relationship between frequency of family meals
and grades. In 2003, the percent of teens who got A’s was 20% of those who ate
with their families 5 or more times per week compared to only 12% of those who
ate with their families 2 or less times per week.
U
= Unlikely to smoke, drink, or take drugs:
• In a research project coordinated by
Dr. Blake Bowden of Cincinnati Children’s Hospital, 527 teenagers were studied
to determine what family and lifestyle characteristics were related to good
mental health and adjustment. He found that kids who ate dinner with their
families at least five times per week were the least likely to take drugs, feel
depressed or get into trouble.
According to CASA surveys:
·
Teens
who eat dinner with their parents twice a week or less are four times more
likely to smoke cigarettes, three times more likely to smoke marijuana, and
nearly twice as likely to drink as those who eat dinner with their parents six
or seven times a week.
·
Teens
who eat frequent family dinners are also less likely than other teens to have
sex at young ages and get into fights; they are at lower risk for thoughts of
suicide; and are likelier to do better in school. This is true regardless of a
teen’s gender, family structure, or family socioeconomic level.
·
Teens
who have frequent family dinners are more likely to be emotionally content,
work hard at school, and have positive peer relationships, not to mention
healthier eating habits.
C
= Courteous and Conversational:
·
Family
meals are a natural training ground for learning social skills, manners, and
how to have pleasant conversations.
·
It’s
at the family table that we learn to talk, learn to behave, to take turns, be
polite, not to interrupt, how to share, and when we have guests, how to
entertain – good lessons for success in life!
C =
Connected to family:
·
According
to CASA surveys, teens who have frequent family dinners are more likely to be
emotionally content, work hard at school, and have positive peer relationships.
·
A
study by the Kraft Company found that American families who eat together are
happier in many aspects of their lives than those who don’t. Children and teens
who eat family meals together experience improved family communication, have
stronger family ties and a greater sense of identity and belonging.
E
= Eating better:
·
Dianne
Neumark-Sztainer and her colleagues at the University of Minnesota, published
the results of the EAT study (which stands for eating among teens) in the
Journal of the American Dietetic Association. Their findings showed a dramatic
relationship between family meal patterns and dietary intake in adolescents.
Their study involved nearly 5,000 middle and high school students of diverse
ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds. They found that family meals were
associated with improved intakes of fruits, vegetables, grains, calcium-rich
foods, protein, iron, fiber, and vitamins A, C, E, B-6 and folate. Family meals
were associated with a lower intake of soft-drinks and snack foods.
·
The
Project EAT survey also found that girls who ate more frequent family meals
exhibited less disordered eating including dieting behaviors, extreme weight
control behaviors, binge eating, and chronic dieting.
·
Family
meals may help prevent childhood overweight for a variety of reasons: Children
feel secure that they will be fed; regular meals prevent grazing and promote
coming to the table hungry but not “starving.” Parents can role model healthy
eating behaviors and a healthy relationship with food and eating. Eating can be
a focused activity if other activities such as television viewing are not
taking place; therefore hunger and satiety cues can be attended to and
respected. Family meals promote a sense of belonging and lower the risk for
loneliness-induced eating for comfort.
S
= Sharing food and conversation at meals S = Strengthens families!!
So
what is our weekly challenge? It is to
make some DAILY effort to step up your family meal time. I want you to put
your creative on. While employment requirements or outside activities may
preclude your entire family sitting down together for dinner every night of the
week I know you can improve on whatever you are doing in some small way. For every day you make an increased effort
to gather and enjoy some meal time together (or to if you live alone to have a
more special meal time) you earn the 5 daily challenge points for a total of 35
points for the week.
See
if there isn’t something on this list you can work on. You do NOT have to try
to do all of these. Just use them as a brainstorming list as you find a
technique or two that you want to try:
1.
KEEP IN MIND THAT IF YOU ARE TOO BUSY TO HAVE MEALS TOGETHER YOU MAY BE TOO
BUSY. Plan ahead, think creatively, and make adjustments to fit your family's
schedule. For example, you may want to change the time of day you eat together
or have a picnic on a blanket before or after a ball game. Can you gather for
breakfast? Or perhaps come together late in the evening for a snack or cup of
cocoa. What is important is sitting together, being together, looking at one
another, talking together.
2.
HAVE MEALTIMES WITHOUT TELEVISION. This is your time to notice one another, pay
attention to one another and enjoy one
another.
3.
KEEP FOOD SIMPLE AND VARIED. Elaborate meals are not necessary for quality
family time. Pancakes, grilled cheese, and even pizza can be featured in a meal
the family enjoys together. To save time
and effort, plan for and use leftovers.
4.
SERVE FAMILY MEMBERS THE SAME FOOD AT THE SAME TIME. Provide a variety of food
choices and refrain from forcing children to eat certain foods. If your
children are not hungry at mealtime, cut back on snacks between meals.
5. LIMIT THE TABLE DISCUSSION TO AGREEABLE OR
NEUTRAL TOPICS. Focus on the positive by asking questions such as, "What
made you smile today?" or “What was
the best thing that happened to you today?” Or “What service or help were you
able to give someone today?” Listen attentively and make sure the speaker feels
respected. Mealtime is not the place for criticism or rude behaviors
6.
INVOLVE THE CHILDREN IN PLANNING, PREPARING, AND SERVING MEALS, THUS BUILDING
TEAMWORK AND COOPERATION. Listen to their meal suggestions and try to make
eating together fun. Invite them to help create memorable holiday foods and
decorations. Children are often more willing to try dishes that they helped
prepare.
7.
TRY PLAYING SOFT MUSIC, LIGHTING CANDLES OR USING FLOWERS TO CREATE A PLEASING
ATMOSPHERE.
8.
IF YOU HAVE BEEN SITTING AT A BAR OR IN FRONT OF THE T.V. SIT AT A TABEL WHERE
YOU CAN MORE EASILY TALK TOGETHER.
9.
IF NEEDED HAVE A BASKET TO STORE ELECTRONIC DEVICES DURING YOUR MEAL TIME.
10.
IF YOU LIVE ALONE YOU CAN STILL MAKE AN EXTRA EFFORT TO MAKE YOUR MEAL TIME
MORE RELAXING AND SPECIAL. Use a beautiful plate and napkin, decorate with
flowers or a placemat. Present your food beautifully and take the time to relax
and enjoy.